Choose love, not fear.
There's nothing more nerve-racking and stressful than having uncertainty in your relationship. When you’re uncertain of your partner, it can feel like a roller coaster of emotions and doubts, but it doesn’t have to last.
Like most of the blocks we face in our life and relationships, uncertainty comes from fear — the fear of loss and heartbreak, the fear of losing our independence and, most common of all, the fear of the unknown.
We often fuel that uncertainty by trying to protect ourselves from that fear by pulling away, looking for reasons to justify it and maybe even cutting our losses all together and breaking up with someone before they hurt us.
Start by asking yourself, How do I feel about this person?
Am I the right person for him/her?
Do I care for him/her?
Do I want to make him/her happy?
Does is make me happy to see him/her smile?
Do I miss him/her when we're apart?
Walk away from your notes and come back to them a few hours later to look at them objectively. Are you approaching the issue from the perspective of fear? If so, consider what you have to lose by rewarding fear:
We often fuel that uncertainty by trying to protect ourselves from that fear by pulling away, looking for reasons to justify it and maybe even cutting our losses all together and breaking up with someone before they hurt us.
Start by asking yourself, How do I feel about this person?
Am I the right person for him/her?
Do I care for him/her?
Do I want to make him/her happy?
Does is make me happy to see him/her smile?
Do I miss him/her when we're apart?
Walk away from your notes and come back to them a few hours later to look at them objectively. Are you approaching the issue from the perspective of fear? If so, consider what you have to lose by rewarding fear:
Will you get another chance at this type of love?
Are you happy with things as they are now, or have been in the past?
Will you choose unhappiness over uncertainty?
Will you choose fear over your relationship?
Are you happy with things as they are now, or have been in the past?
Will you choose unhappiness over uncertainty?
Will you choose fear over your relationship?
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