If you understood the previous points then you may have already guessed why we sometimes fall in love with someone at the first sight. We fall in love at the first sight when someone meets most of our unconscious criteria at the first meeting.
For example if a guy had dark skin and really loved his mother then it’s very likely that his unconscious criteria will include items such as 1) She should have white skin and that 2) She should be as kind as my mother. Of course it’s not that simple; the criteria can be very complex and can include hundreds of items but I am just simplifying the idea in order for you to easily get it. (see Why do we like certain people)
What will happen if that guy met a girl who has such traits? What if in addition to all that she was attractive as well? Most probably that guy will develop an instant crush on her, or as we say, love her at the first sight.
People who fall in love at the first sight usually believe in false ideas like “the one” and “soul mate”. In my book “How to get over someone in few days” i explained how getting rid of such concepts can be a vital step in the recovery from any breakup.
By just understanding how love at the first sight works you are actually helping yourself in getting over such false beliefs.
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